Psychological Law of Control

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Introduction

The Law of Control states that we feel good about ourselves to the degree to which we feel that we are in control of our own lives. When we are physically, mentally and emotionally controlling the changes in our lives, than this naturally leads to greater achievement, emotional satisfaction and a sense of fulfillment. Uncontrolled change on the other hand leads to stress, anxiety, frustration and misery – all of which signifies that our minds are undisciplined and lacking order and structure.

This IQ Matrix Mind Map breaks down the Law of Control and how it applies to our lives from a variety of angles and perspectives.

• The 1st Branch of this IQ Matrix Mind Map delves into the meaning behind the Law of Control and the impact that it has on our lives.
• The 2nd Branch of this IQ Matrix Mind Map analyzes the benefits and drawbacks of the two types of control that influence our lives.
• The 3rd Branch of this IQ Matrix Mind Map presents several strategies and self-analysis questions that will enable you to gain a greater sense of clarity about your life, and subsequently allow you to seize back conscious control over your decisions, behaviors and ultimate destiny.

The Law of Control

The 1st Branch of this IQ Matrix Mind Map delves into the meaning behind the Law of Control and the impact that it has on our lives.

Your Degree of Control Determines…

The degree of physical and psychological control that we feel we have over our lives at any given moment in time essentially determines how feel around certain people, how feel on a daily basis, how we feel under specific circumstances and conditions, and the types of emotions we tend to experience consistently.

Your Level of Control

When it comes to our ability to control our life and circumstances, there are essentially two levels of control that we can become habitually accustomed to:

High Level of Control

Under certain conditions, people and circumstances we can experience a High Level of Control.

Having a sense of a High Level of Control naturally leads to the experience of positive emotions, and it signifies that our lives are controlled by us (Internal Locus of Control), and not by outside circumstances or people.

Low Level of Control

Under certain conditions, people and circumstances we can experience a Low Level of Control.

Having a sense of a Low Level of Control naturally leads to the experience of negative emotions, and it signifies that our lives are controlled by external circumstances and people (External Locus of Control), and not by ourselves.

The Importance of Controlled Change

When we learn to effectively take Real or Imagined control over the changing conditions and circumstances of our lives, than this naturally leads to lower levels of stress, higher levels of performance and a greater sense of overall achievement and confidence in our personal abilities.

Types of Control

The 2nd Branch of this IQ Matrix Mind Map analyzes the benefits and drawbacks of the two types of control that influence our lives.

When We Lack Control

When we feel that we are lacking control over events, people, circumstances and the emotion we tend to experience on a consistent basis, than this naturally affects us in limiting and negative ways.

Here are the drawbacks of this type of control:

High Levels of Procrastination & more

When we feel that we are lacking control over our lives and circumstances, our bodies naturally begin to panic. This state of hesitancy raises our levels of stress, anxiety and overall ability to think effectively under these emotional conditions. Moreover, all of this naturally leads to higher levels of procrastination, as we feel somewhat unable to effectively deal with the circumstances of our lives, and as such we tend to do nothing about it, and as a result procrastination ensues.

Limiting & Negative Emotions

Sensing a lack of control over our lives can also lead to many other limiting emotions such as frustration, disappointment, overwhelm, guilt and anger.

Whenever you are experiencing these emotions, it simply means that at that very moment you are feeling as though you are not in control of your life. As such, you will continue to experience these emotions up until the moment when you feel that you have gained back some semblance of control over yourself, your life or your circumstances.

Ineffective Choices & Decisions

As we become overwhelmed by all the above mentioned negative emotions and limiting behaviors, is it really surprising that we naturally begin to make ineffective choices and decisions on a daily basis?

Our Choices and Decisions are a reflection of our state-of-mind and of our ability to effectively predict the outcomes of our lives before they occur. If we feel that we are lacking a sense of control over our lives, people or circumstances, than this will naturally breed a sense of hesitancy and fear, which brings up thoughts of an uncertain future leading to indecision and the vicious cycle of procrastination.

When We Maintain Control

When we feel that we are maintaining control over events, people, circumstances and the emotions that we tend to experience on a consistent basis, than this naturally affects us in empowering and positive ways.

Here are the benefits of this type of control:

Productive Emotions

When you experience a sense of control, you naturally feel good about yourself, your life and the circumstances you find yourself in. This therefore attracts positive and empowering emotions into your experience, which likewise adds to your Clarity of Thought.

Greater Clarity of Thought

When you experience a sense of control, you are able to think without stress, anxiety and a plethora of other above mentioned emotions that clutter your thoughts with negative outcomes.

Effective Choices & Decisions

When you experience a sense of control, you experience positive emotions and Clarity of Thought, which allows you to make better and more effective choices and decisions about your life and circumstances.

High Levels of Motivation

When you experience a sense of control, you naturally believe that your choices and decisions will lead to the outcomes you desire to bring forth into your life. This therefore raises your levels of motivation and inspires you to take positive action.

Inspired & Proactive Action

As a consequence of all the above, you take inspired and proactive action, thusly bringing forth into your reality the goals and objectives you have set yourself to achieve.

Self-Analysis & Transformation

The 3rd Branch of this IQ Matrix Mind Map presents several strategies and self-analysis questions that will enable you to gain a greater sense of clarity about your life, and subsequently allow you to seize back conscious control over your decisions, behaviors and ultimate destiny.

Self-Analysis Questions

Here are several self-analysis questions that will help you to gather the necessary information and resources you need in order to take back control over your life and circumstances.

Life Areas You Control

What areas of my life do I control?

Life Areas You Semi-Control

What areas of my life do I partly control?

How can I enhance my control within these areas? Socially, physically and emotionally?

Life Areas You Don’t Control

What areas of my life don’t I control?

How can I gain control over these areas?

What am I unable to control?

How can I let go of the need to control these areas?

How can I learn to accept that not everything can be controlled all of the time?

Transformational Strategies

The following discussion focuses on outlining some effective strategies you can utilize in order to gain back the control you desire to have over yourself, your life and the circumstances you find yourself in every single day.

If you take the time and effort to implement even some of these suggestions, you will undoubtedly develop the necessary frame-of-mind and willpower to control the outcomes within your reality.

Cultivate the Qualities of Control

There are certain personal qualities and attributes that if cultivated in the right manner and in the correct quantities will naturally enable you to gain back control over your life and circumstances.

Present Moment Awareness

At any moment in time when we are suddenly feeling that we cannot control our life, events or circumstances, it helps to focus on the Present Moment. Once there, you soon realize that within the Present Moment you can begin by controlling your breath, the movement of your body, hands, legs, etc. Soon afterwards you realize that you can also control how you talk to yourself, your thoughts and subsequently the emotions you are experiencing in the moment. Consequently, you begin asking better and more effective questions, which enables you to make better decisions about the current predicaments you are facing, leading to an unusual Clarity of Thought and Proactive Action.

Just remember that control ALWAYS starts and ends in the Present Moment.

Persistence

No matter how little control you have in the present moment, it always helps to cultivate the quality of Persistence. If you persist long and hard enough in creative ways, than the odds will eventually be stacked in your favor – enabling you to gain some semblance of control, which will lead to ever greater levels of control as long as you keep persisting and moving forward in a creative manner towards your goals and objectives.

Patience

At times experiencing a lack of control has to do with nothing more than bad timing. During moments such as this it is important to let yourself go, to disassociate yourself from your experience, and wait the storm out patiently. Additionally, all the while as the storm is brewing around you, keep your senses primed to spot opportunities that may arise. The moment an opportunity arises, is the moment you have an opportunity to get back in the game one small step at a time.

Foresight

Foresight is the ability to see beyond your present circumstances, and into a future of potential pitfalls and/or opportunities.

By thinking ahead in an open-minded manner, you will develop the necessary foresight in order to determine the best course of action you should be taking in the next moment, thusly enabling you to take back control over your present circumstances a slice at a time.

Focused Attention

When we are lacking control, it is very easy to become overwhelmed in the moment, and as a result we naturally tend to blur out the obvious answers that we are looking for.

Cultivating Focused Attention means that you are attending to the microcosm of details that make up your current predicament. It is after all within these ‘details’ that ideas are born, and it’s within these ‘details’ that you will find the necessary answers and solutions to help you take back control over your current life condition and circumstances.

Discipline

Cultivating discipline will enable you to become better aware of what is required to take back control over your present circumstances.

Discipline helps us to stay at a task longer; to spot the details that normally would be out of range of our senses; and it provides us with a greater Clarity of Thought, allowing for proactive action and the development of a deep sense of conviction about the task at hand.

Humor

When you are able to humor yourself about your current predicament or about your uncanny lack of control over your life circumstances, you effectively detach yourself from your experience, and associate yourself with the possibilities of finding an effective solution that will help you gain some semblance of control as you move forward towards your desired outcomes.

Create Productive Time Schedules

By taking the time to organize your time, you are effectively giving yourself the ability to control how you spend your time, where you spend your time, and how long you spend it. That by itself enables you a great deal of control over the events and circumstances of your life.

Additionally, by being disciplined and sticking to your time schedules – no matter how events or circumstances change around you, – will keep you within that Zone of Control, thusly enabling for greater Clarity of Thought and proactive action in the midst of turmoil.

Create Empowering Goals & Objectives

Just by setting empowering life goals and daily objectives, naturally provides us with a sense of control over our lives.

When we work towards achieving an outcome, we naturally work from a place of control where we know our outcomes and understand what we must do to get them. That by itself will provide you with a greater Clarity of Thought enabling you to make better and more effective decisions about the predicaments that confront you on a daily basis.

Create Contingency Plans

The moments when we tend to lose a sense of control over our life and circumstances, are the moments that surprise us unexpectedly without prior warning.

These unexpected events cause great distress because we simply did not prepare for them before we took our current course of action. As a result we hesitate or feel powerless when moving forward, and thusly lack the necessary Clarity of Thought to overcome these unexpected setbacks.

In order to overcome these types of instances, we must take the time to develop effective contingency plans if things don’t go as we expect. This can take some time and effort. However, you could save a lot of time by asking yourself:

What consequences could potentially result from this course of action?

How will these consequences impact my state-of-mind and circumstances?

How will I take control of these consequences in an effective and efficient manner?

Accept Change Wholeheartedly

For many people Change can be a positive and enlightening experience. However, for other people – and under different conditions – Change can also mean a loss of a sense of control over certain aspects of their lives.

Many times over we must simply accept that change is inevitable, unavoidable and unpredictable. In such instances we must learn to appreciate this change for what it is, instead of trying to resist it with all our strength.

Change occurs because our energies are no longer aligned with our habitual patterns of behavior. As a result our circumstances change, our life conditions become somewhat foreign to us, and we lose that sense of control, certainty and familiarity. When this occurs, it is important to just accept things as they are and take notice of the opportunities that have suddenly become available to you.

Change does not signify an ending, but rather New Beginnings.

Develop Real or Imagined Control

If you are unable to develop Actual Control over the events and circumstances in your life, than simply Fake It!

Close your eyes and imagine yourself being in control of the events and circumstances that are causing you distress. Close your eyes and really think about it…

If I had unlimited resources, how would I resolve this predicament?

If I had NO Limitations, how would I gain control over my current circumstances?

You may actually find that by imagining Being In Control, will actually provide you with that missing creative spark that will enable you to gain the Clarity of Thought to take control over your life circumstances.

Let Go of What Can’t Control

When all else fails just simply Let Go of what you can’t control.

There is no point in hanging onto and stressing about something that you cannot influence or control yourself. Just Let it Go, and move on with your life.

Sometimes things do have a way of working themselves out. And if they don’t, than at least you are not stressing about that Storm raging outside. If you can’t control the Storm, than what’s the point of stressing about it? Just let things go

Control Your Mind

Finally, the one thing that We ALWAYS Control no matter what is going on around us is our Mind.

You are always capable – maybe not always willing but certainly capable – of controlling your thoughts, attitude, self-talk and the subsequent emotions you experience as a result.

No matter what is going on around you, there is never an excuse not to begin by taking control of your own mind. To do this, simply start by thinking and talking only about what you want to Do, Be, Have and Achieve. Who knows, you may actually find that all your answers lie within

Final Thoughts

Our need for Certainty and Control is no doubt a primary driving force of Human Development. It’s something that has shaped the course of evolution, and it is undoubtedly something that will continue to shape each and everyone of our lives for all eternity. However having said that, we must also keep in mind that we are not really talking about External Control, but rather Internal Control – the control you have over your thoughts, self-talk, attitude and beliefs. It is after all this Internal Control that has the power and influence to shape your life choices, decisions, actions and ultimate destiny.

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